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A Note to Anonymous

Apparently when one googles “tumblr” and “rape” this post I wrote about being raped is one of the first things that pops up. Yay, analytics!

This is particularly awesome right now, as many people are discussing a woman’s tumblr post about rape jokes and Daniel Tosh. Let the googling commence! 

I’m not going to get into my thoughts on Tosh, because Meghan already wrote them out. Read it. She’s right. Daniel Tosh isn’t insulting because rape jokes can’t be funny, Daniel Tosh is insulting because his jokes on the subject just aren’t funny. Unfunny joke are, by nature — and especially around sensitive subjects — are just insulting. To all of us. 

What I am going to say, is that if tumblr has become the kind of place where my really open and honest discussion about being raped is making me a target of rape threats (currently up to 32 anon notes offering to “get me properly”), then this is not a community of which I want to be a member.

This is not an “I quit the Internet” post. This is a “hey humanity (you are still human, yes?), look at your life, look at your choices” post. This is a “look at how you are treating other people” post. This is a “I think your parents would be super disappointed in you post.” This is a “what you think is funny is not at all funny post.” 

This is an, “you are an asshole” post. 

I haven’t been super active on the Internet lately because it can tend to freak me out, but if this platform that I used to love has become nothing more than a breeder of hate, then maybe it’s okay if the zombie apocalypse comes and we all end up becoming rotting, brainless corpses. Because that’s not all that far from where we are now. 

  1. ysettle reblogged this from joyengel and added:
    Great Sassy Gay Best Friend reference
  2. restinvermont said: ugh, jesus, that’s fucking terrible. I’m sorry there are so many fuckwads out there.
  3. megwhat said: They are an asshole and you are strong and that is FUCKED on so many levels.
  4. runswithpoodles said: Those people are indeed assholes, and they can fuck right off. I’m sorry you’re in their target right now.
  5. cadyheron said: JFC. what is wrong with people. I’m so sorry :( Eff those anons. you are helping countless people with your words.
  6. karion said: It is a powerful, incredibly well written piece. Yours is one of about 10 voices that keeps me sticking around. Please turn off anonymous comments and never, ever look for them. Anonymity on the internet is cool except in places built on community.
  7. everyday-k said: People are so fucking gross. I love you. Thank you for sharing your story with us.
  8. whiskeybentandhellbound said: Well written.
  9. thebaucompair said: this is so, so horrible. I bet that for every faceless asshole that sent you a message you’ve helped a multitude of that number find some sense of solice or community by sharing your story.
  10. fullcredit said: Jesus fucking Christ. That’s horrific. I’m sorry.
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  12. melissanat said: Who are these people that even take this route, never mind the horribleness of them contacting you with terrible messages? Oy vey, world.
  13. luciwithani said: ugh im so sorry, sometimes i hope the mayans were right.
  14. messily said: I’m so sorry. That’s horrifying. Please know that there are far more people who have been helped by your post, and many more people that love you because of the internet, than the assholes.
  15. abnormallyyours said: I’m so sorry tumblr is being so cruel to you. xo